{"id":3138,"date":"2014-12-14T16:36:04","date_gmt":"2014-12-14T22:36:04","guid":{"rendered":"http:\/\/www.8statekate.net\/wordpress\/?p=3138"},"modified":"2014-12-14T16:36:04","modified_gmt":"2014-12-14T22:36:04","slug":"the-things-we-miss","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/www.8statekate.net\/wordpress\/?p=3138","title":{"rendered":"The Things We Miss"},"content":{"rendered":"<p>Several friends have lost 2-legged and 4-legged loved ones during this past year. The holidays are a busy time when these losses can be especially painful. So I invite you to focus on your loved ones this season, to give them your undivided attention and really see and enjoy them.<\/p>\n<p>One friend lost her Australian Cattle Dog to cancer. She told me that he used to sit by her chair in the evening. She would drop her arm over the side and pet him, unconsciously much of the time. Now when she drops her arm over the side of the chair, it is painfully obvious that he\u2019s no longer there. So I invite you to be aware of and consciously enjoy those small interactions with your animals.<\/p>\n<p>When I say \u201cthe things we miss\u201d I mean the things we miss once our loved ones are gone. I also mean the things we miss while our loved ones are here and things are happening, but we don\u2019t sense them or understand them, or aren\u2019t paying attention.<\/p>\n<p>When I watch my dog Chase interact with the kids at the library, I\u2019m amazed at his intuition. Like the time he met a little 5-year old girl for the first time and went into a play bow. She said, \u201cLook Mommy, he\u2019s bowing!\u201d I later learned that the girl was afraid of dogs. After reading to Chase, she told me that he was the first dog she hadn\u2019t been afraid of. I think he went into a bow upon meeting her because having his eyes at her eye level would have been too scary for her. So he bowed to make himself shorter, and of course to invite play.<\/p>\n<p>I&#8217;ve learned a lot from Gingersnap, our cat. Last winter she often sat by the north wall of the living room, near a heat duct. I wondered if there was a critter in the duct. But during the summer, I found out that mice were getting in under the siding on the outside of the wall by where she&#8217;d been sitting. Ginger was like a pointer for mice. While the mice were out, I filled the hole with foil to keep them out and she stopped sitting there.<\/p>\n<div id=\"attachment_3143\" style=\"width: 310px\" class=\"wp-caption aligncenter\"><a href=\"http:\/\/www.8statekate.net\/wordpress\/wp-content\/uploads\/2014\/12\/Ginger.jpg\" data-rel=\"lightbox-image-0\" data-rl_title=\"\" data-rl_caption=\"\" title=\"\"><img aria-describedby=\"caption-attachment-3143\" decoding=\"async\" loading=\"lazy\" class=\"size-medium wp-image-3143\" alt=\"Gingersnap the Cat\" src=\"http:\/\/www.8statekate.net\/wordpress\/wp-content\/uploads\/2014\/12\/Ginger-300x260.jpg\" width=\"300\" height=\"260\" srcset=\"https:\/\/www.8statekate.net\/wordpress\/wp-content\/uploads\/2014\/12\/Ginger-300x260.jpg 300w, https:\/\/www.8statekate.net\/wordpress\/wp-content\/uploads\/2014\/12\/Ginger-150x130.jpg 150w, https:\/\/www.8statekate.net\/wordpress\/wp-content\/uploads\/2014\/12\/Ginger-1024x889.jpg 1024w, https:\/\/www.8statekate.net\/wordpress\/wp-content\/uploads\/2014\/12\/Ginger.jpg 1303w\" sizes=\"(max-width: 300px) 100vw, 300px\" \/><\/a><p id=\"caption-attachment-3143\" class=\"wp-caption-text\">Gingersnap the Cat<\/p><\/div>\n<p>In September, Ginger hopped up on the stove in the kitchen. She knows she&#8217;s not supposed to be up there. But she was obsessing about something in the range hood. She took a swipe at the filter\/guard above the stove, her toenail got caught and she pulled the whole thing off. The next thing I knew she was presenting me with a little mouse.<\/p>\n<p>A month or two ago, Ginger sat in the middle of the kitchen floor at night. There was no evidence of mice in the kitchen, and I couldn&#8217;t figure out what was drawing her there. Then I discovered little bits of insulation on the floor in the basement below and learned that mice were running along the pipes on the basement ceiling, just below where Ginger sat in the kitchen at night. I&#8217;m sure animals sense a lot that we don&#8217;t get, and I&#8217;m learning more and more from Ginger. Winter came early here this year, and it seems like a lot of mice found their way in.<\/p>\n<p>On November 9<sup>th<\/sup>, while walking the dogs by the St. Croix River, I spotted a pileated woodpecker drumming on a pole. I was able to take several pictures before it flew off. In the 25 years that I\u2019ve lived here, I\u2019ve often heard pileated woodpeckers, but can count on one hand the number of times I\u2019ve seen one. A couple of weeks later, I learned that a friend\u2019s fianc\u00e9 had passed away in a car accident on November 8<sup>th<\/sup>.\u00a0 Pileated woodpeckers had appeared to his family and his fianc\u00e9 that weekend, and she had remarked that it would be just like Carl, a logger, to visit as a pileated woodpecker. So was it merely a coincidence that I saw the woodpecker that weekend?<\/p>\n<div id=\"attachment_3144\" style=\"width: 249px\" class=\"wp-caption aligncenter\"><a href=\"http:\/\/www.8statekate.net\/wordpress\/wp-content\/uploads\/2014\/12\/Woodpecker.jpg\" data-rel=\"lightbox-image-1\" data-rl_title=\"\" data-rl_caption=\"\" title=\"\"><img aria-describedby=\"caption-attachment-3144\" decoding=\"async\" loading=\"lazy\" class=\"size-medium wp-image-3144\" alt=\"Pileated Woodpecker\" src=\"http:\/\/www.8statekate.net\/wordpress\/wp-content\/uploads\/2014\/12\/Woodpecker-239x300.jpg\" width=\"239\" height=\"300\" srcset=\"https:\/\/www.8statekate.net\/wordpress\/wp-content\/uploads\/2014\/12\/Woodpecker-239x300.jpg 239w, https:\/\/www.8statekate.net\/wordpress\/wp-content\/uploads\/2014\/12\/Woodpecker-119x150.jpg 119w, https:\/\/www.8statekate.net\/wordpress\/wp-content\/uploads\/2014\/12\/Woodpecker.jpg 802w\" sizes=\"(max-width: 239px) 100vw, 239px\" \/><\/a><p id=\"caption-attachment-3144\" class=\"wp-caption-text\">Pileated Woodpecker<\/p><\/div>\n<p>Those of you who have been reading along know that we lost our Australian Cattle Dog Bandit to multiple myeloma in March. On the day that he crossed over and countless times since, bald eagles have flown over our yard and the field where we walk every day. Chase usually spots the eagle first and runs along with it, barking up to it. Often I\u2019ve seen a bald eagle crossing over the highway just in front of my truck as I\u2019m driving 50 mph or more. I don\u2019t know how they do it.<\/p>\n<p>November 13<sup>th<\/sup> would have been Bandit\u2019s 11<sup>th<\/sup> birthday. There wasn\u2019t much opportunity for me to see an eagle here that day since I had to walk the dogs in the dark that evening. Knowing Bandit\u2019s playful spirit, I figured he\u2019d do something different anyway. When I arrived home from work that day, his stuffed basketball, which had been in the same place on his bed since March, was on the other side of the room, right in my path as I walked through the house. Chase and Cay had been kenneled while I was gone and hadn\u2019t moved that ball since Bandit left us. The ball is too big for Ginger the cat to move. So it felt like a \u2018hello\u2019 from Bandit.<\/p>\n<p>On Bandit\u2019s birthday, Chase brought me the jolly ball like Bandit used to, and Cay brought me Bandit\u2019s rubber chicken. They must have sensed his presence too.<\/p>\n<div id=\"attachment_3146\" style=\"width: 310px\" class=\"wp-caption aligncenter\"><a href=\"http:\/\/www.8statekate.net\/wordpress\/wp-content\/uploads\/2014\/12\/Cay-and-Chase-C.jpg\" data-rel=\"lightbox-image-2\" data-rl_title=\"\" data-rl_caption=\"\" title=\"\"><img aria-describedby=\"caption-attachment-3146\" decoding=\"async\" loading=\"lazy\" class=\"size-medium wp-image-3146\" alt=\"Cay and Chase\" src=\"http:\/\/www.8statekate.net\/wordpress\/wp-content\/uploads\/2014\/12\/Cay-and-Chase-C-300x274.jpg\" width=\"300\" height=\"274\" srcset=\"https:\/\/www.8statekate.net\/wordpress\/wp-content\/uploads\/2014\/12\/Cay-and-Chase-C-300x274.jpg 300w, https:\/\/www.8statekate.net\/wordpress\/wp-content\/uploads\/2014\/12\/Cay-and-Chase-C-150x137.jpg 150w, https:\/\/www.8statekate.net\/wordpress\/wp-content\/uploads\/2014\/12\/Cay-and-Chase-C-1024x935.jpg 1024w, https:\/\/www.8statekate.net\/wordpress\/wp-content\/uploads\/2014\/12\/Cay-and-Chase-C.jpg 2002w\" sizes=\"(max-width: 300px) 100vw, 300px\" \/><\/a><p id=\"caption-attachment-3146\" class=\"wp-caption-text\">Cay and Chase<\/p><\/div>\n<p>A few days later I was walking the dogs up on the hill, thinking that I should tell a friend the story about the stuffed basketball. Suddenly, Chase took off full speed across the field, looking up at the sky, and let out a bark. I looked up and there was the bald eagle, making a pass across the field. He just made that one pass and then was gone. If Chase hadn\u2019t pointed him out, I would have missed him. Chase continued to look for the eagle in the sky, and barked every once in a while. I think Chase and the eagle were communicating. I wonder if Chase felt Bandit\u2019s spirit in the eagle as I did. I don\u2019t completely understand these interactions, but I\u2019m intrigued by them. Most of us miss so much and understand so little about our natural world.<\/p>\n<p><a href=\"http:\/\/www.8statekate.net\/wordpress\/wp-content\/uploads\/2014\/12\/Eagle-1.jpg\" data-rel=\"lightbox-image-3\" data-rl_title=\"\" data-rl_caption=\"\" title=\"\"><img decoding=\"async\" loading=\"lazy\" class=\"size-medium wp-image-3148 aligncenter\" alt=\"OLYMPUS DIGITAL CAMERA\" src=\"http:\/\/www.8statekate.net\/wordpress\/wp-content\/uploads\/2014\/12\/Eagle-1-300x202.jpg\" width=\"300\" height=\"202\" srcset=\"https:\/\/www.8statekate.net\/wordpress\/wp-content\/uploads\/2014\/12\/Eagle-1-300x202.jpg 300w, https:\/\/www.8statekate.net\/wordpress\/wp-content\/uploads\/2014\/12\/Eagle-1-150x101.jpg 150w, https:\/\/www.8statekate.net\/wordpress\/wp-content\/uploads\/2014\/12\/Eagle-1-1024x691.jpg 1024w\" sizes=\"(max-width: 300px) 100vw, 300px\" \/><\/a><\/p>\n<p>Which brings me back to my original thought. This holiday season, take time to slow down and tune in to the natural world around you. Live in the present moment with your 4-legged friends. Take in and enjoy their essence and the little ways they keep you company. Ponder what you learn from them, or would if you were paying more attention.<\/p>\n<p>The holiday season can get way too busy. So I invite you to sit still with your loved ones and really notice what you\u2019ve been missing, and what you\u2019ll miss some day when they\u2019re gone. I promise you won\u2019t regret it. Happy Holidays!<\/p>\n<p>~~~<\/p>\n<p>My new book, <i>There\u2019s a Chicken in My Kitchen: Bandit\u2019s Big Birthday Blizzard<\/i>, is about a blizzard that \u2018unplugs\u2019 us and gives us the chance to really see and appreciate our loved ones. Watch for it next year.<\/p>\n<p><a href=\"http:\/\/www.8statekate.net\/wordpress\/wp-content\/uploads\/2014\/12\/z-PC143377.jpg\" data-rel=\"lightbox-image-4\" data-rl_title=\"\" data-rl_caption=\"\" title=\"\"><img decoding=\"async\" loading=\"lazy\" class=\"size-medium wp-image-3149 aligncenter\" alt=\"OLYMPUS DIGITAL CAMERA\" src=\"http:\/\/www.8statekate.net\/wordpress\/wp-content\/uploads\/2014\/12\/z-PC143377-300x201.jpg\" width=\"300\" height=\"201\" srcset=\"https:\/\/www.8statekate.net\/wordpress\/wp-content\/uploads\/2014\/12\/z-PC143377-300x201.jpg 300w, https:\/\/www.8statekate.net\/wordpress\/wp-content\/uploads\/2014\/12\/z-PC143377-150x100.jpg 150w, https:\/\/www.8statekate.net\/wordpress\/wp-content\/uploads\/2014\/12\/z-PC143377-1024x688.jpg 1024w, https:\/\/www.8statekate.net\/wordpress\/wp-content\/uploads\/2014\/12\/z-PC143377.jpg 1615w\" sizes=\"(max-width: 300px) 100vw, 300px\" \/><\/a><\/p>\n<p>&nbsp;<\/p>\n","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"<p>Several friends have lost 2-legged and 4-legged loved ones during this past year. The holidays are a busy time when these losses can be especially painful. So I invite you to focus on your loved ones this season, to give them your undivided attention and really see and enjoy them. 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